When do you give up on someone or something?
This question is one that I do not ask myself enough. When I am passionate and believe in something I tend to cling on for hope even when all the signs are saying that I should not. You see, I am a dreamer and believer. I like to believe that if you are leading with love, anything is possible. The problem with this belief is that it doesn’t take into account the reality of the world. When it comes to anything that is outside of ourselves we ultimately have no control. Once we see this reality, the only thing we can do is choose what we will or will not pursue. Giving up on someone or something is not an easy task. There will always be positives and negatives. It’s time we start looking at the things that we are working towards and ask, is this what I truly want and believe in? What am I gaining or losing by staying around this person? Will this goal or achievement really make me happy or can I be happy without it? Am I trying too hard or not hard enough?
When it comes to making decisions like this its best that you figure out your truth. Talking to friends, a coach, and a therapist will help you gather more information. At the end of the day it will be up to you to decide what is best. How can you decide what is best if you don’t know who you are and what you believe in? Have you been open and honest with yourself? Is the goal worth pursuing? What can you do better? Is this filling your cup or depleting it? Is your worth dependent on this person or thing?
It would be silly to think that anyone or anything will make us happy but we do it all the time. When you sit back and look at the bigger picture we are on a rock that is circling a star in a universe that is mostly empty. Filling your heart and mind with gratitude for existence is the best way to see what truly matters. We are lucky to open our eyes every morning and live another day so don’t suffer thinking about things we want or what other people think. Its time we stopped always wanting more. Started using that energy to build yourself. All we need in life is to know ourselves, so that we can more easily navigate the outside world and the rest is extra.